COMMUNITY

I have been thinking about how separate we have become as a people. Life moves so fast, constantly something to do or be done with change at every turn. For myself I look forward to quiet time with nothing expected of me. This thirst hits like I have wandered in a desert with no water for weeks on end.

My sweet granddaughter described some time she spent this summer doing nothing as “rotting.” We have corrupted self-care and healing by thinking it is a luxury. There is guilt and embarrassment that a break was needed. There is nothing wrong with holding space for yourself to be quiet and calm. I can present my best most present self after a purposeful time of quiet thoughtfulness.

This need to be slower and more purposeful pulls at me. Lately, more than any other time in my life, I am drawn to the need to create calmness and participate in community. True caring seemed to happen authentically years ago when people visited over the back fence or dropped off a freshly baked pie just because. People used to create community by stopping in for a visit to share whatever was going on in their lives and there were people there to listen and to help carry the weight.

I am guilty of scurrying between back-to-back meetings, passing co-workers and friends in the hall and saying “Hi, how are you” while I keep walking. Shamefully when I think about it, I have asked that very question and not even slowed down, probably not even listening for the answer, definitely not honoring them.

I am going to do better to be better. I pledge to listen and hold space for you, your big ugly scary feelings, for your joy, and heartbreak for your grief. For your wild crazy ideas and your laughter. A pledge to look people in the eye and open myself up to vulnerability!

This community, this tribe of people are out there waiting for you, waiting for me. We are better together, stronger, and more capable of creating depth and meaning in this incredible world. Lend a hand to your neighbor, help a friend decorate for Halloween, hold a door open for a stranger. Start small to create big change!